Life is not easy, especially in this modern ear when people move fast. This has caused a lot of mental health issues. One of the most popular is called Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD. What is BPD? What are the signs of this disorder? Find out the answer of these questions below.
There are a total of signs of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) as categorized by the mental health professionals. To be diagnosed with this disorder, one must show at least five of these signs mentioned below. Aside from that, these signs should be long standing and impact a lot of areas of their life.
- Fear of abandonment
Those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) usually have a fear of being left alone or a fear of being abandoned by people around them. They tend to be afraid of everything, even a small thing that is not even dangerous such as when the loved one coming home late from work or when going to somewhere on the weekend. Due to the feeling, they might do something that the other ones might find strange such as begging the loved one to not leave, cling to them, block the way or movements of the loved one, fight them when they do not listen, and so on. Unfortunately, these extreme actions usually do not give the reactions they want.
- Unstable relationships
Everyone who has the Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) tends to have unstable relationships. Their relationships with the others usually are full of drama and do not last long. They tend to fall in in love in short time, trust someone even though they just met, feel over the moon, and so on. However, these feelings are usually do not last long and shortly after that they tend to be disappointed. The relationships that they have are normally perfect or suck and there is no in between. People around these with this disorder like lovers, friends, and family, might get affected emotionally as the result of their mood swings.
- Unclear or shifting self image
The feelings of those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are unstable. One day they might feel really great about themselves and the next day they might hate themselves. It is different with mood swing that usually does not even last a day and it can quickly change in just a minute. They often do not know about themselves and what do they want in life. This can lead to the behavior of changing frequently jobs, friends, lovers, religions, values, goals, or sexual identity.
- Impulsive, self destructive behaviors
There is a chance of those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) to do harmful actions to gain attention from the others. They tend to do this when they are upset about something. Some of these actions include wasting money they cannot afford, eating too much, driving recklessly, shoplifting, doing extreme sex, overconsuming drugs or alcohol, and so on. They might feel better when they are doing so without realizing that they hurt themselves and people around them.
- Self harm
Suicidal attempts and harm themselves are just a few common things done by people with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). They can have a thought of ending their own life when they are really at the lowest. Scissors, knife, and lighter are their friends.
- Extreme emotional wings
As mentioned before, it is common for those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) to have unstable emotions and moods. One time, they might feel over the moon, and the text after that, they might feel depressed. The moods and emotions are extreme and can drop in just a second.
- Chronic feelings of emptiness
Feeling alone and empty is the common sign of those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). The feeling is there even in fact there are a lot of people who care about them. They tend to think that they are in a hole that is full of darkness and no one can understand what they feel. They often blame themselves about everything on their life and consider themselves as nothing or nobody. This lonely and empty feeling is actually annoying and often force them to do some bad things such as drinking too much alcohol, consuming drugs, doing free sex, and many more. What makes it worse is that they will still feel empty even after doing such things and the situation will just get worse.
- Explosive anger
The one with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is usually a short temper who can anger even for just a simple thing. They have no ability to control themselves and just let the anger controls them. Yelling and throwing things are common views of those with this disorder. Actually, the anger that they have is not always shown. Sometimes, they do not yell or throw things and just sit and get angry at themselves.
- Feeling suspicious or out of touch with reality
Those with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) usually do not trust the others and always question them. When the stress comes, it is possible for them to get lost touch with reality. They may feel foggy, love to space out, and basically their thought is somewhere that no one knows.
If you or the one that is close to you show at least five of the signs, it might be a good idea to seek help before anything late and before things get worse. Do not shy and afraid consulting with the professionals for the sake of your own. Do not bother of what the other people might think about you as you know it is for your best. There are a lot of places for you to visit to get consult a thing and to get a treatment. You can find one near your place by browsing through an internet. You can tell your family, friend, or your partner if you want and ask them to accompany you.